Inner Quest:

- Humanistic Psychology:

Abraham Maslow

Abraham Maslow (April 1, 1908 – June 8, 1970) was an American psychologist. He is mostly noted today for his proposal of a hierarchy of human needs.

"I have come to think of this humanist trend in psychology as a revolution in the truest, oldest sense of the word; the sense in which Galileo, Darwin, Einstein, Freud and Marx made revolutions, i.e. new ways of perceiving and thinking."

"All the evidence that we have indicates that it is reasonable to assume in practically every human being, and certainly in almost every newborn baby, that there is an active will toward health, an impulse towards growth, or towards the actualization."

"A musician must make music, an artist must paint, a poet must write, if he is to be ultimately at peace with himself."

"Even if all these needs are satisfied, we may still often, if not always, expect that a new discontent and restlessness will soon develop, unless the individual is doing what he is fitted for."

"If you deliberately plan on being less than you are capable of being, then I warn you that you'll be unhappy for the rest of your life."
Abraham Maslow

"One's only rival is one's own potentialities. One's only failure is failing to live up to one's own possibilities. In this sense, every man can be a king, and must therefore be treated like a king."

"The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness."

“The fact is that people are good, if only their fundamental wishes are satisfied, their wish for affection and security. Give people affection and security, and they will give affection and be secure in their feelings and their behavior.”

"The neurosis in which the search for safety takes its clearest form is in the compulsive-obsessive neurosis. Compulsive-obsessive to frantically order and stabilize the world so that no unmanageable, unexpected or unfamiliar dangers will ever appear. "

"The way to recover the meaning of life and the worthwhileness of life is to recover the power of experience, to have impulse voices from within, and to be able to hear these impulse voices from within-and make the point: This can be done."

"We fear to know the fearsome and unsavory aspects of ourselves, but we fear even more to know the godlike in ourselves."

"What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself."

Erich Fromm

Erich Pinchas Fromm (March 23, 1900 – March 18, 1980) was an internationally renowned German-American psychologist and humanistic philosopher. He is associated with what became known as the Frankfurt School of critical thinkers.

"Knowing begins with the awareness of the deceptiveness of our commonsense perceptions, in the sense that our picture of physical reality does not correspond to what is "really real" and, mainly, in the sense that most people are half-awake, half-dreaming, and are unaware that most of what they hold to be true and self-evident is illlusion produced by the suggestive influence of the social world in which they live."

"To have faith means to dare, to think the unthinkable, yet to act within the limits of the realistically possible; it is the paradoxical hope to expect the Messiah every day, yet not to lose heart when he has not come at the appointed hour. This hope is not passive and it is not patient; on the contrary, it is impatient an active, looking for every possibility of action within the realm of real possibilities. Least of all it is passive as far as the growth and liberation of one's own person are concerned....

The situation of mankind is too serious to permit us to listen to the demagogues - least of all demagogues who are attracted to destruction - or even to the leaders who use only their brains and whose hearts have hardened. Critical and radical thought will only bear fruit when it is blended with the most precious quality man is endowed with - the love of life."

"Modern man is alienated from himself, from his fellow men, and from nature. He has been transformed into a commodity, experiences his life forces as an investment which must bring him the maximum profit obtainable under existing market conditions. "

"While the having persons rely on what they have, the being persons rely on the fact that they are, that they are alive and that something new will be born if only they have the courage to let go and respond. They become fully alive in the conversation because they do not stifle themselves by anxious concern with what they have. Their own aliveness is infectious and often helps the other person to transcend his or her egocentricity. Thus the conversation ceases to be an exchange of commodities (information, knowledge, status) and becomes a dialogue in which it does not matter any more who is right. "

"If I am what I have and if I lose what I have who then am I?"

"Man's main task in life is to give birth to himself, to become what he potentially is. The most important product of his effort is his own personality."

"Most people die before they are fully born. Creativeness means to be born before one dies."

"The danger of the past was that men became slaves. The danger of the future is that man may become robots."

"The psychic task which a person can and must set for himself is not to feel secure, but to be able to tolerate insecurity."

"There is only one solution to [the human condition]: for one to face the truth, to acknowledge his fundamental aloneness and solitude in a universe indifferent to his fate, to recognize that there is no power transcending him which can solve his problem for him. Man must accept the responsibility for himself and the fact that only by using his powers can he give meaning to his life. If he faces the truth without panic he will recognize that: there is no meaning to life except the meaning man gives his life by the unfolding of his powers, by living productively; and that only constant vigilance, activity, and effort can keep us from failing in the one task that matters-the full development of our powers within the limitations set by the laws of our existence. Only if he recognizes the human situation, the dichotomies inherent in his existence and his capacity to unfold his powers, will he be able to succeed in his task: to be himself and for himself and to achieve happiness by the full realization of those faculties which are peculiarly his-of reason, love, and productive work"

- Self-help - New Thought Movement:

Wayne Dyer

Wayne W. Dyer (born May 10, 1940) is a popular American self-help advocate. He frequently appears on U.S. public television (PBS) during their pledge drives. Dyer is one of the most widely known and respected people in the field of self-empowerment, affectionately called the "father of motivation" by some of his fans. He first attained popularity with his book Your Erroneous Zones.

"Be miserable. Or motivate yourself. Whatever has to be done, it's always your choice."

"Deficiency motivation doesn't work. It will lead to a life-long pursuit of try to fix me. Learn to appreciate what you have and where and who you are."

"Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life."

"Everything in the universe has a purpose. Indeed, the invisible intelligence that flows through everything in a purposeful fashion is also flowing through you."

"Everything you are against weakens you. Everything you are for empowers you."

"Freedom means you are unobstructed in living your life as you choose. Anything less is a form of slavery."

" Go for it now. The future is promised to no one. "

"If I could define enlightenment briefly I would say it is "the quiet acceptance of what is."

"If you are living out of a sense of obligation you are slave."

" It makes no sense to worry about things you have no control over because there's nothing you can do about them, and why worry about things you do control? The activity of worrying keeps you immobilized."

"Only the insecure strive for security."

"Self-worth comes from one thing - thinking that you are worthy."

"Simply put, you believe that things or people make you unhappy, but this is not accurate. You make yourself unhappy."

"Stop acting as if life is a rehearsal. Live this day as if it were your last. The past is over and gone. The future is not guaranteed."

"There is no scarcity of opportunity to make a living at what you love; there's only scarcity of resolve to make it happen."

"What we think determines what happens to us, so if we want to change our lives, we need to stretch our minds."

"A non-doer is very often a critic-that is, someone who sits back and watches doers, and then waxes philosophically about how the doers are doing. It's easy to be a critic, but being a doer requires effort, risk, and change."

"If you're always in a hurry, always trying to get ahead of the other guy, or someone else's performance is what motivates you, then that person is in control of you."

"Love what you do. Do what you love."

"The state of your life is nothing more than a reflection of your state of mind."

"You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now."

Deepak Chopra

Deepak Chopra, M.D., (born 1947 in New Delhi, India) is a medical doctor and popular contemporary writer in the United States on spirituality, synchronicity, integrative medicine and Ayurveda. Hinduism is his main influence, specifically the teachings of Vedanta and the Bhagavad Gita.

“There are no extra pieces in the universe. Everyone is here because he or she has a place to fill, and every piece must fit itself into the big jigsaw puzzle.”

“In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.”

“If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue. Make a decision to relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved, and the need to judge. Those are the three things the ego is doing all the time. It's very important to be aware of them every time they come up.”

“Whatever relationships you have attracted in your life at this moment, are precisely the ones you need in your life at this moment. There is a hidden meaning behind all events, and this hidden meaning is serving your own evolution.”

“The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers”

"The secret of attraction is to love yourself. Attractive people judge neither themselves nor others. They are open to gestures of love. They think about love, and express their love in every action. They know that love is not a mere sentiment, but the ultimate truth at the heart of the universe.”

"Life is a field of unlimited possibilities."

"Even when you think you have your life all mapped out, things happen that shape your destiny in ways you might never have imagined."

"When you live your life with an appreciation of coincidences and their meanings, you connect with the underlying field of infinite possibilities."

"This is the nature of genius, to be able to grasp the knowable even when noone else recognizes that it is present."

"Our thinking and our behaviour are always in anticipation of a response. It is therefore fear-based."

"Man's goodness is truly measured by what he is, not what he does."

- Psychogenealogy:

Psychogenealogy is the study of how our family and the generations that have gone before us influence our psyche and as well as our children's and grand-children's...

Psychogenealogy is the study of how our family and the generations that have gone before us influence our psyche and as well as our children's and grand-children's. It is genealogy applied to everyday life.
However psychogenealogy is not genealogy in the strictest sence of the word. In fact, we can only fall back on family memories, that is to say our great-grandparents, unless some aspects of our ancestors' personality have been passed down.
Otherwise, even though this may seem very odd, brothers and sisters from the same family, who obviously have the same genealogy, do not have the same psychogenealogy.
In fact, it is not the same in a family to be a wanted or unwanted child, girl or boy, or oldest or youngest. The family does not welcome the children in the same way. Children do not see their parents, their brothers and sisters, their cousins, their uncles and aunt, their grand-parents and their great-grandparents in the same way. And that leads to a different psychogenealogy.

Psychogenealogy is linked to :
studying the family's attitudes towards us. For example, our first names were not chosen at random and indicate the values that our parents want to give us. When we are born and as we grow up, our parents give us intellectual, affective and body labels, which influence us during our childhood and when we are adults. We are often compared with other members of our family.
Becoming aware of our identifications. When we are small, we only know the reality of the family that surrounds us. We learn to become a man or a woman, husband or wife, and a citizen according to the models we are shown. These identifications condition not only our emotional and affective life, but also our professional and social life and friendships.
Updating the repetition schemes in terms of our family past. Often without being aware of it, we repeat the same choices, the same dates, the same attitudes as our family. Some of us try "to do things differently", but they come up against a counter-scenario that is not free.

Psychogenealogy is aimed at making our family not only our roots, but also our treasure. We have certainly received love from our family, but we have also experienced frustrations, suffering, which limit us and stop us from fulfilling ourselves.

Psychogenealogy's goal is to understand that our parents and grand-parents have done all that they can in terms of their own family history. We have suffered attitudes that had nothing to do with us, but which were due to the suffering of our parents .

The purpose of psychogenealogy is to reconcile the person with its history. This family has given us the most precious asset, life. It has also given us opportunities. It has also given us blocks. We cannot change the past, but we can change the aftereffects of the past.

And that is when we turn our genealogy into our personal history that make sense to us, to other people and particularly to our children and grand-children.

(Chantal Rialland)

IS IT POSSIBLE TO 'INHERIT' EVENTS FROM OUR ANCESTORS? HOW CAN THERAPISTS IDENTIFY SUCH TRANSGENERATIONAL LINKS?

In The Ancestor Syndrome, Anne Ancelin Schützenberger explains and provides clinical examples of her unique psychogenealogical approach to psychotherapy. As mere links in a chain of generations, we may have no choice in having the events and traumas experienced by our ancestors visited upon us in our own lifetime.

The book includes fascinating case studies and 'genosociograms' (family trees) illustrating how her clients have conquered seemingly irrational fears, psychological and even physical difficulties by discovering and understanding the parallels between their own life and the lives of their forebears.

Anne Ancelin Schützenberger draws on over four decades of experience as a therapist and analyst, to provide a fascinating insight into a unique style of clinical work. The Ancestor Syndrome will appeal to anyone working in the psychotherapy profession, as well as to mental health professionals.

Anne Ancelin Schützenberger is Professor Emeritus of Psychology at the University of Nice and co-founder of the International Association of Group Psychotherapy. She is also internationally renowned as a trainer in group psychotherapy and psychodrama.

London & New York,Routledge (1998)

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